Tips to Making Your Marriage Happy

happy_marriageTo many people the phrase “happy marriage” may sound like an oxymoron. I’ve even found myself asking “what’s so happy about it?” at times throughout the years. The trick to having a happy marriage is making a happy marriage. Just like so many other things in life, you get out of your marriage what you put into it.

Learn how to make your marriage happy using the following tips from our expert:

How to Make your Marriage Thrive!

Let’s face it – marriage can be hard! But it doesn’t have to stay that way. There are simple things you can do every day to make a difference. Happy couples know that doing these 3 small things can make a world of difference. Couples in trouble, usually find themselves unsure of where to go or what to do, to make their marriage really thrive. During a typical couples counseling session, you learn new ways to communicate, how to repair lost trust, and how to love each other again properly. But, it’s also helpful to learn those day-to-day things you can do to keep your relationship in a healthy state.

Here’s what the happiest couples are doing:


Listening to each other is a key component of communication. Usually when someone is speaking, you are just waiting for them to pause long enough, for you to jump in with your thoughts and views. But when you are truly listening to your spouse, you must stop your own thought process – stop thinking of what you are going to say next – and really listen. One way to show you are listening is to repeat back what you hear your spouse saying.


Thinking about what would make the other happy or sad, keeps you ever mindful of your spouse. Though you and your spouse may have been together for a long time, that doesn’t mean that you like the same things or dislike the same things. So, when you ask your spouse for their input, take note of the answer and commit that to memory.

Date your spouse.

Your marriage will not continue to thrive, if you believe that you no longer need to date your spouse. A date can consist of those things that the two of you like to do that bring you happiness. The key to the date – you must do it alone. It’s not a date if your children, other family members or friends are there (even when it’s labeled a “double date”). Go to the beach or for a walk with your spouse and enjoy each other again.

So remember, your marriage can thrive, it will thrive, if you take a moment to nurture and polish it. So put pencil to pad, and make a list of things you can do with your spouse to get and keep your marriage on the right track.

Rev. Dr. Angela Butts Chester, President and Founder, New Life Pastoral Counseling

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