Say Yes to Let Go and Let it Fall
As the season changes and the external world begins to transform right before your eyes this is the perfect time to prepare yourself for a new season in life. Autumn is one of my favorite seasons of the year as it is the time for things to fall off in preparation for new beginnings. As summer comes to a close what needs to fall off of or out of your life? What do you need to say no to create space for more yes moments? Sometimes we don’t always know for sure what needs to fall out of our lives or off our spirits. We get so caught up in life’s daily tasks and challenges that we lose sight of what really matters until we are faced with the reality of things and people of value being lost in the shuffle.
When we get lost in the shuffle more often we are saying no to life and yes to misery, unfulfillment and apathy. Life becomes a chore, a thing you must do and you move through life with things to do instead life to experience and enjoy. When you are saying no to life you are exhausted, bored, overwhelmed and unsatisfied.
Here are some very specific ways you might be saying no in your life:
- I don’t have time to pamper myself because I am too busy.
- I can’t afford a new haircut or outfit because I have to pay bills.
- I can’t take a vacation right now because I have other financial obligations.
- I will go back to school once the kids get a little older.
- I can’t start the business of my dreams until I have enough money to support the start up.
The above NO statements need to fall out of your cognition and never roll off your tongue. To experience more yes moments they and the underlying belief of not being important enough need to fall out of your spirit.
When you say you can’t do something you won’t. When you say you can’t afford something you won’t be able to. When you put your dreams on the back burner they never boil over with success. When all of this happens you end up sacrificing your dreams, delaying your destiny, stagnating your growth and eventually you become bitter because you work hard everyday and never get to taste the sweetness of life. When you fail to sip from the sweet cup of self-love and success you end up with a sour taste in your mouth. That sourness shows up in apathy, criticism, doubt, anger, frustration, cynicism and limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in place.
Here’s what these experiences look like in real life:
Apathy = I don’t care, boredom, whatever happens, life’s not going to get any better, and/or I’m not in control of my life.
Criticism = I don’t deserve this or that, always pointing out the negative in situations, nitpicking, and or tearing yourself or others down instead of building them up.
Doubt= I think I will fail so I won’t try, I don’t believe I can be successful, my dreams are too big to manifest, and or I’ll never get what I deserve.
Anger =You may not think you are angry but if you are frustrated, quick tempered, resentful, apathetic, cynical or fearful, you may be experiencing some underlying anger. Anger is a secondary emotion and often underneath anger is hurt, pain or sadness.
Frustration= Why try things that never work out anyway, impatience, I give up because I can never win, what’s the use, get out of my way and just let me do it, and or hurry up already.
Cynicism= It will never work, how can someone be so happy, life can’t possibly be that good, there’s no such thing as the bright side, I don’t believe in love and or my life is doomed and will never get better.
Limiting Beliefs= Any temporary or lingering belief that includes words like: you can’t, you shouldn’t, you’re not worthy of something, you don’t deserve, and or thoughts that basically talk you out of doing something you know you need to do or desire to do.
Autumn is the season of harvest; a time when you gather the fruits of your labor. Say yes to all the successes in your life big and small. Taste and savor who you are, what you’ve accomplished and the wonderful things you have right now. Autumn is also the time when you prepare your soil for new beginnings. The best way to till your soil (soul) is to be courageous enough to let go of people, thoughts, tasks and behaviors that do not noursish you or elevate you to your highest potential. As summer comes to a close what needs to fall off of or out of your life? What do you need to say no to in order to create space for more yes moments? Be fearless and say yes to more moments of joy, fulfillment, success and satisfaction.
Catrice M. Jackson, M.S., LMHP, LPC
“Helping women fearlessly discover their juicy spot, embrace it, share it and live brave.”
International Empowerment Speaker, Fear-Free Living Expert and Author