It’s Not Failure It’s Feedback: Bouncing Back From a Breakdown
To fail means to breakdown, stop, malfunction, crash or collapse. Failure causes us to feel let down, disappointed, unsuccessful or hopeless. We’ve all had bouts of failure in our lives and many of us believe that we ourselves are a failure.
The key to overcoming failure is to first know that at some point in our lives we all will fail several times before we become successful and, secondly, that each failure is not a reflection of who we are but rather an event that has happened in our lives. If we learn to anticipate failures as a part of our lives and learn not to personalize our failures they will be much easier to overcome. Failure must be seen as and believed to be an opportunity for growth. In each failure there is a lesson that will prove helpful in our journey towards success.
Bouncing back from failure can seem daunting and even impossible. It is in our dark times or failures that we, ironically, are able to find clarity. Many of us are so busy running on auto pilot that we barely have time to stop and just BE. Failures put the brakes on life’s speedy journey and cause us to reevaluate what is working and not working in our lives. We must begin to see failure as an opportunity for growth and enlightenment. Each time we fail we learn valuable lessons that cause us to get that much closer to our goal. The key is to pick yourself up, re-analyze the situation and try again. There’s nothing more refreshing than that “aha” moment, when the light bulb comes on and we discover the answer we’ve been seeking.
Don’t be afraid to fail and take these fearless living tips with you on the journey.
- Know and accept that failure is a part of life and it will happen
- Define what failure means to you; don’t let others determine your success.
- Develop a realistic, measurable plan to achieve your goals.
- Don’t set yourself up for additional failure by setting your goals too high or setting goals that are not possible to achieve.
- Anticipate some form of failure along the way and have a back-up plan just in case.
- Don’t allow your failures to be a measurement of who you are as a person, instead see them as events that have happened in your life, they too will pass and success is right around the corner.
- Failure is life’s opportunity for growth and change.
Failure is a part of life and you may even fail many times during your life. When you fail at something it does not mean that you are worthless it simply means that your intentions or actions did not work in that particular circumstance. Use your failures as an opportunity to refine your thoughts, skills, and behaviors and embrace failure when it happens you never know what can emerge from a place you once considered the end.
Catrice M. Jackson, Speaker, Fear-Free Living Expert and Author